— a past Re-Define Summit warrior
I LEARNED TO GET OUT OF VICTIMHOOD AND LOOK TO MY FUTURE.
When a supervisor or co-worker puts their ego over the organization — and feels threatened by our competence and ethics — they often abuse us because they can. False accusations. Gossip. Exclusion. Belittling. Ignoring. Sabotage.
We suffer. We become overwhelmed with navigating the situation and experience re-trauma when our employers and government fail to hold the abusers accountable. Our dignity, our trust, and our mental, emotional, and financial health fall under attack.
We feel stuck in the trauma when it’s happening — and when we’re out of the toxic environment.
No matter what you do to fix the situation, there’s a giant target on your back. You go into work every day wondering what the next nightmare will be. Lying about you? Ignoring you? Taking away responsibilities? Gossiping about you?
Meanwhile, the more you try to fix it, the worse it gets. You’re sick to your stomach and stressed out of your mind. Anxiety. Depression. Daily. You’re consumed with:
You focus on how on earth you’ll muster the energy to get up tomorrow to go to work and dodge the landmines. You spend every minute of your commute into work DREADING dealing with the bully. You hold back tears. You feel nauseous.
Forget trying to grow in your career. Forget having a plan. You’re just trying to make it through the day.
No matter what you do to move on with your life, you’re stuck in the motions of life. Wake up. Feel numb and bitter. Make it through the day. Repeat.
You can’t stop ruminating about the “what ifs,” blaming yourself for what happened, and feeling angry about everything you lost.
Meanwhile, the more you try to fix it, the more you feel frustrated with yourself for not conquering the pain. You’re consumed with:
You wonder how you’ll get the confidence to look for another job, interview, and avoid another nightmare work situation. You need some kind of break — anything — but the pain lingers.
Either way, it’s BEYOND exhausting.
You wish you knew what’s worked for others who’ve navigated and healed from workplace abuse.
— a past Re-Define Summit warrior
And all of THAT means embracing YOU: feeling seen, knowing you matter, embracing the fun, and living life on YOUR terms.
I’m talking giving life a big HECK YES. (Laughing again, here you come.)
You can become it. The best part: we’ve got something to help.
The Re-Define Summit is about just that.
At the Re-Define Summit, you’ll connect with other targets as you hear from experts on topics around navigating and healing from abuse at work. Your new tools can help you live your best life.
The goal is to take a big step to understanding how to now define yourself according to YOUR values. Our team of experts will help you on that journey to get there.
It’s time to make it happen so you can become the CEO of Your Life.
— a past Re-Define Summit warrior
Subject to change
10-10:45am: Navigating abuse at work
Compare notes with other targets about what works when navigating the landmines.
11-11:45am: Ways to advocate to take back your voice and personal power
with Vicki Courtemanche, Massachusetts workplace anti-bullying legislation co-director
Employers know there’s a huge asymmetry of power at work. They have more resources that buy them power: lawyers and settlements to silence targets. But we can collectively use our voices to advocate for change. In this session, you’ll learn ways you can take your voice back to advocate for change so we can together say we deserve better.
12-1pm: Lunch and Game Show (it’s back!)
1-1:45pm: How to know your values after abuse at work
with Deb Falzoi, founder of Dignity Together and co-founder of Re-Define
When abusers at work manipulate us into thinking we’re the problem, we can feel stuck. How do we make sense of what happened? And how do we move forward? In this interactive session, we’ll get in touch we what WE value and need and how we can be intentional with our lives moving forward so we can find joy and fulfillment.
2-2:45pm: Healing from the trauma of abuse at work
Connect with other targets about what works with healing from the trauma.
— a past Re-Define Summit warrior
If you’d like to speak at one of our future events, get in touch.